Our work is so deeply energetic. You ever feel uplifted and energized by clients?
Or drained and down by others?
That’s because in the intimate spaces, with our hands on people as they relax + transform - there’s an energy release + exchange.
It’s important as empathetic service providers that we work to hold space for our clients, not hold their emotions/energy for them.
Here are my tips for keeping your peace in the spa room.
When you feel triggered by someone’s energy, hold your middle finger + thumb together and take a deep breath - this is a closed loop of your energy and it declares that you’re not giving away your energy or taking anyone else’s on.
Wash your hands before and after your service (obviously for sanitation purposes!) but also to symbolize releasing ties and the energetic connection between you and the client.
Manage your mindset + intention - although we come into our industry deeply craving to care for others with our creative + compassionate spirit, we aren’t here to “fix” anyone or anything - we can only guide them to do the work themselves - we have to let them feel + experience what they will
My favorite “prayer” or mantra before beginning is “Let this service be exactly what this person needs in their life.” Because even if it is below their expectations and they have a terrible time - maybe they finally decide that they need to go to therapy because a facial didn’t fix all their problems like they deep-down had hoped it would
We can’t be everything for everybody - but we can guide our clients to the best of our abilities while they are in the space with us. And we are human. And so are they. Give yourselves and them some grace. We are whole people, guiding other people to express their light as best as they can.
If you’d like to dive into this a little more, watch my YouTube video on the subject!
This whole post and video were inspired by the members of “The Empathetic Esthetician” facebook group where we discuss serving in our industry on a soul-level.